职场生存术!职场上永远不要说的13句话

在职场中， “会措辞”是一个加分项，“说错话”倒是个很危险的事，有可能会影响到你的事情饭碗哦~来看看职场中有哪些不克不及说的话。

In speaking with hundreds of executives and senior leaders over the past twenty years, certain phrases consistently come up as career-limiting phrases thatjeopardizeone's professional image and potential for promotion.

经由过程曩昔二十年来和诸多高管及引导的交流，我发现有些话在职场中比拟禁忌，可能会毁失落一小我的职业形象甚或升职机遇。

To the speaker they may seem like harmless words, however, to the listener they reveal a more critical issue:

说者可能无意，但听者却会看到更本色的问题：

In a workplace where employers must be competitive and cost-effective, employees who use these phrases will likely be replaced with those who convey a collaborative spirit, proactive behavior and professional demeanor.

身处职场，员工必需具有竞争力并能勤俭本钱，措辞欠妥的员工很可能被连合协作、自动采取行为而且专业有素的员工所代替。

Here are 13 phrases that should be banned from the office:

以下13句话就毫不能在办公室讲：

"大众It’s not fair.”

“这不公道。”

She got a raise, you didn't. He was recognized, you weren't.

她加薪了，你却没有；他受器重了，而你没有。

Some people have food to eat while others starves. Injustices happen on the job and in the world every day.

有人温饱就有人受饿，天下上不公道到处可见，职场也一样。

Whether it's a troubling issue at work or a serious problem for the planet, the point in avoiding this phrase is to be proactive about the issues versus complaining, or worse, passively whining.

岂论是事情碰上麻烦照样地球遇到劫难，要避免不公道，就得积极办理问题，而不是埋怨或者悲观发怨言。

Instead, document the facts, build a case, and present an intelligent argument to the person or group who can help you.

相反，你应该量力而行地、向可以或许提供赞助的人或组织有理有据地来表达意见。

#2.

That’s not my problem,” “That’s not my job,” or “I don’t get paid enough for this.

“那不是我的问题”，“那不是我的事情”或“这不是我的分内之事”。

If you asked someone for help, and the person replied with one of the above phrases, how would you feel?

假如你请或人协助，却获得上面如许的答复，你会怎么想。

As importantly, what would it say about him or her?

紧张的是，说出这种话的人又能怎样呢。

Regardless of how inconvenient or inappropriate a request may be, it is likely important to the other person or they would not have asked.

不管哀求何等不便利或不适当，假如不那么紧张，别人也就不必启齿告急了。

Therefore, as a contributing member of the team, a top priority is to care about the success of others (or at least act as though you do).

以是，作为团队成员，起首应将他人的胜利放第一位（或至少表现一下本身的心意）。

An unconcerned, detached andself-servingattitude quickly limits career advancement.

冷淡离群、以自我为中心的立场很快便会葬送职业成长。

This doesn’t mean you have to say yes; it does mean you need to be articulate and thoughtful when saying no.

这并不是要你有求必应,只是奉告你三思之后再回绝。

For example, if your boss issues an unreasonable request, rather than saying, "大众you've got to be kidding me. I don't get paid enough for this,"大众

例如，假如老板提出不合理的要求，不要说“开什么打趣，这基本就不是我的分内之事。”

instead say, 公众I'll be glad to help. Given my current tasks of A, B, and C, which one of these shall I place on hold while I work on this new assignment?’

而应答复 公众没问题啊，但我手上还有A、B、C等义务，哪个义务可以暂放一放，以便完成这项新义务呢。"大众。

This clearly communicates teamwork and helpfulness, while reminding your boss of your current work load and the need to set realistic expectations.

如许说不仅展示了团队精力和乐于助人，还提示了老板你手上还有活儿，要求弗成太甚分。

#3.

“I think…”

“我以为……”

Which of these two statements sounds more authoritative? "大众I think our company might be a good partner for you."大众

下面哪句话听上去更有力。“我以为我们公司可能成为贵方的优越伙伴。”或“我信任/我知道/我确信我们公司将会成为贵方的优越伙伴。”

Or, "大众I believe…"大众 "大众I know…"大众 or "大众I am confident that our company will be a good partner for you.公众

或“我信任/我知道/我确信我们公司将会成为贵方的优越伙伴。”

There is a slight difference in the wording, however theconvictioncommunicated to your customer is profound.

只是用词略有更改，但转达给客户的信念却很纷歧样。

You may have noticed, the first phrase contains two weak words, "大众think"大众 and 公众might公众. They risk making you sound unsure or insecure about the message. Conversely, the second sentence is assertive and certain.

你们应该注意到，第一句话中的“以为”和“可能”语气较弱，使信息听上去不那么确凿确定。相反，第二句话则确信确定多了。

To convey a command of content and passion for your subject, substitute the word "大众think公众 with "大众believe"大众 and replace"大众might"大众 with "大众will"大众.

为表达你讲话内容的坚定和豪情，应将“以为”和“可能”换成“信任”和“将要”。

"大众No problem.”

公众没问题。”

When someone thanks you, the courteous and polite reply is, "大众You're welcome.”

当有人向你表现感激时，礼貌的答复是“不虚心”。

The meaning implies that it was a pleasure for you to help the person, and that you receive their appreciation. Though the casual laid-back phrase, 公众no problem公众 may intend to communicate this,it falls short.

不虚心表现你很愿意提供赞助，而且接受对方的感激。固然随便一点说"大众没问题"大众也有同样的功效，但意思却远远不敷。

It actually negates the person’s appreciation and implies the situation could have been a problem under other circumstances.

不仅疏忽了对方的感谢之情，并且还暗指这个忙在其余环境下可能是个”问题“。

In business and social situations, if you want to behave aswell-mannered and considerate, respond to thank you with"大众 You're welcome.”

在职场及社会上，假如你想表示得体贴有教化，照样用“不虚心”往返答别人的感激吧。

#5.

公众I'll try.”

公众我尝尝看。”

Imagine it's April 15th and you ask a friend to mail your tax returns before 5pm on his way to the post office. If he replies,公众Okay, I'll try."大众 You'll likely feel the need to mail them yourself.

假设4月15号那天，你请同伙在下昼5点之前顺道去邮局替你寄报告单，同伙答复说“好啊，我尝尝看吧。”你是不是感到不宁神，照样亲自去寄的好呢。

Why? Because that phrase implies the possibility of failure.

为什么会如许。由于“尝尝看”表现工作也有可能做欠好。

In your speech, especially with senior leaders, replace the word 公众try"大众 with the word and intention of 公众will"大众.

在你讲话的时刻，尤其是面临上级引导，请把“尝尝看”换成“会去做”。

This seemingly small change speaks volumes.

转变虽小，意义却很重年夜。

#6.

"大众He’s a jerk,” or “She’s lazy,” or “My job stinks,” or “I hate this company.”

"大众他是个傻瓜”，“她很懒”，“我的事情真糟糕”或“我憎恶这家公司。”

Nothing tanks a career faster than name-calling. Not only does it reveal juvenile school-yard immaturity, it's language that is liable and fire-able.

没什么能比说脏话更快地搞垮职业生活了。说脏话不仅像小孩一样稚子，还有可能惹来祸殃。

Avoid making unkind, judgmental statements that will inevitably reflect poorly on you.

万万别说恶意评价，不然末了只能本身受害。

If you have a genuine complaint about someone or something, communicate the issue with tact, consideration and neutrality.

假如你确切对或人或某事故意见，照样干练、过细并中登时沟通办理吧。

#7.

公众But we've always done it that way.”

“但这是我们的常规。”

The most effective leaders value innovation, creative thinking and problem solving skills in their employees.

最有用率的引导看重员工的革新、立异思维以及办理问题的才能。

In one fell swoop, this phrase reveals you are the opposite: stuck in the past, inflexible, and closed-minded.

但这句话一会儿就把你推向了对峙面：墨守陈规、呆板、教条。

Instead say, "大众Wow, that's an interesting idea. How would that work?"大众 Or, 公众That's a different approach. Let's discuss the pros and cons.公众

相反，你应该说“哇，这个设法主意故意思。接下来该怎么办。”或“这又是另一种办法，那我们来探究一下利弊吧。”

#8.

公众That's impossible” or "大众There's nothing I can do.”

"大众那弗成能”或“我束手无策”

Really? Are you sure you've considered every single possible solution and the list is now exhausted?

真的吗。你肯定已斟酌过所有可能的计划、真的穷途恼了吗。

When you make the mistake of saying these negative phrases, your words convey a pessimistic, passive, even hopeless outlook.This approach is seldom valued in the workplace.

当你犯错说出这种悲观的话时，阐明你为人悲观消极甚或断交，职场素来小看这种立场。

Employers notice, recognize and promote a can-do attitude.

员工必需看重、认清并养成"大众能行"大众的立场。

Despite the glum circumstances, communicate through your words what you can contribute to the situation.

不管环境何等不容乐观，你都应该从话语上提示本身面临实际办理问题。

Instead, try something like, “I'll be glad to check on it again,” "大众Let's discuss what's possible under these circumstances,” or, 公众What I can do is this.”

以是，你应该说“我照样再反省一遍吧”、“让我们看看这种环境下还能有什么方法”或“我能做些什么呢”。

#9.

公众You should have…” or “You could have…”

"大众你本应该……”或“你本可以……”

You probably wouldn't be thrilled if someone said:“You should have told me about this sooner!” Or,“You could have tried a little harder.”

假如有人跟你说“你本该早点奉告我”或“你本可以再尽力一点”，你确定觉得忽忽不乐。

The workplace fosters equality, collaboration and teamwork.

职场应该是平等、团队与协作。

Instead of making someone feel guilty (even if they are), take a more productive non-judgmental approach. Say, “Next time, to ensure proper planning, please bring this to my attention immediately.” Or, “In the future, I recommend…”

与其让别人倍感愧疚（即便他们确切觉得愧疚），还不如换个积极中立的说法，好比"大众下次方案适当了就请立刻奉告我吧公众或公众以后我愿望……”

#10.

公众You guys.”

"大众店员们。

Reserve the phrase “you guys” for friendly casual conversations and avoid using it in business.

公众店员们”用法比拟随便，职场中应只管即便避免。

Referring to a group of people as "大众you guys公众 is not only inaccurate if women are present, it is slang and lowers your level ofprofessionalism.

用 “店员们” 指称一群人并不适当，由其是有女性在场的时刻；并且这是个俗词，有可能低落你的职业素养。

With fellow professionals such as your boss, co-workers and clients, substitute “you guys” with terms such as “your organization” or “your team” or simply 公众you公众.

假如有老板、同事及客户等职业人士在场，照样用“贵公司”“贵方团队”或“贵方”比拟妥善。

#11.

公众I may be wrong, but…” or “This may be a silly idea, but…”

"大众有可能是我错了，但……”或“这个设法主意或许有点蠢，但……”

These phrases are known asdiscounting.

这些话语听上去就像在讨价还价。

They diminish the impact of what follows and reduce your credibility.

它们不仅减弱了后面话语的影响力，也低落了你本人的可托度。

Remember that your spoken words reveal to the world how much value you place on yourself and your message.

你说出去的话便是在见告天下你的代价观和想要转达的信息。

For this reason, eliminate any prefacing phrase that demeans the importance of who you are or lessens the significance of what you contribute.

是以，别拐弯儿强调你多厉害或你谦善本身所作的进献。

Don't say, “This may be a silly idea, but I was thinking that maybe we might conduct the quarterly meeting online instead, okay?公众

别说什么“这个设法主意或许有点蠢，但我感到或许我们可以网上召开季度会议，怎么样。”

Instead, assert your recommendation: "大众To reduce travel costs and increase time efficiency, I recommend we conduct the quarterly meeting online."大众

相反，你应该这么建议：“为勤俭盘费盘川和光阴，我建议网上召开季度会议。”

#12.

公众Don't you think?” or “Okay?”

"大众你不感到吗。”或“好吗。

These phrases are commonly known as hedging—seeking validation through the use of overly cautious or non-committal words.

这种话通常是因过火谨严或为不承担责任而追求对方附和。

If you truly are seeking approval or looking for validation, these phrases may well apply.

假如你真想追求附和或承认，这倒也没什么问题。

If your goal is to communicate a confident commanding message and persuade people to see it your way, instead of hedging make your statement or recommendation with certainty.

假如你是想转达确实信息、使人按你的意思懂得问题，你就应该加倍肯定地疏解才行。

Imagine an investment banker saying, “This is a good way to invest your money, don't you think? I'll proceed, if that's okay with you.”

假设投资银行家说,"大众这是个理财的好办法，你不感到吗。假如你感到可行，那我就继续。”

Instead, you'd probably want to hear something like: “This strategy is a wise investment that provides long-term benefits. With your approval, I'll wire the money by 5pm today.”

你确定感到奇异，正常应该是这么说："大众这是个明智的投资战略，可获取历久好处。只要你批准，我本日下昼5点就汇钱。”

#13.

公众I don't have time for this right now,” or "大众I'm too busy.”

"大众我如今没有光阴”或“我都忙死了”

Even if these statements are true, no one wants to feel less important than something or someone else.

就算你说的都是事实，也没人乐意感到本身还不如其他事或其他人紧张。

To foster positive relations and convey empathy, say instead: 公众I'd be happy to discuss this with you after my morning meetings. May I stop by your office around 1pm?”

要想维持优越关系并博得同感，你应该说：“我早上开完会后就有空跟你讨论这个问题了，下昼1点左右我去你办公室怎么样。”

These are common phrases that might be difficult toeliminatecompletely from your everyday conversations—but the trick is to gain awareness of the language you're using.

这些常见的话语可能一时难以立刻完全从你的日常讲话中纠正——然则，你可以增强防范，随时把稳本身所讲的话。

As is often the case with bad habits, we are unconscious of the fact we're saying career-limiting words and phrases.

坏习气老是不自发的，我们有时并不克不及意识到在讲一些祸害职业的话语。

今日词汇

jeopardize/ˈdʒepədaɪz/ v. 伤害，侵害

conviction/kənˈvɪkʃn/ n. 信心；入罪；坚信；判罪

self-serving/self ˈsɜːvɪŋ]/ adj. 自私的；同心专心谋私利的

professionalism/prəˈfeʃənəlɪzəm/ n.专业程度；专业素质

eliminate/ɪˈlɪmɪneɪt/ v. 打消；肃清；镌汰

末了再提示年夜家：

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